1) You had a slip, and then decided to slide. In other words, you messed up a little bit, (didn’t go to the gym one day, had two desserts instead of one, etc.) and said “the heck with it, I’ve messed up, I’ll never make it anyway, I’m such a loser, so I might as well just enjoy myself!”
Sound like any one you know?
2) You set your goals for someone else or someone else set them for you.
Note: This article was originally written at mid year so it is good reminder around June but the principles are applicable anytime.
Hold a “progressive” goal party
If you have a group of friends with the same goal who live in close proximity (or who can meet up comfortably in a third-party establishment), get them involved in a progressive goal party. The idea is to meet at one location, where you all complete one part of the goal as a group, then move on to the next (carpool or walk) to complete the second part, and so on. This can be extended to include shops and other buildings as well as houses. Be sure to have appropriate snacks, fun activities, etc., at each stop to make it a special day.
Q. I have always had such trouble with doing this goals thing. I don’t know where to start or what to do. I can’t seem to get going. I end up floundering, getting discouraged and giving up. Can you help me figure this thing out?
A. There are lots of things wrong with goals. One is growing up believing we set them only once a year - the dreaded New Year’s resolutions. Another is believing goals are something you achieve and then walk away.